{"id":33805,"date":"2025-11-15T02:29:00","date_gmt":"2025-11-15T02:29:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/?p=33805"},"modified":"2025-10-14T11:47:40","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T10:47:40","slug":"nu-dau-sfaturi-nimanui-despre-cum-sa-si-creasca-copiii-dar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/?p=33805","title":{"rendered":"Teorie vs Practic\u0103: Disciplina \u0219i Efortul vs Haosul \u0219i Rezultatul"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"fb-root\"><\/div>\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>Nu dau sfaturi nim\u0103nui despre cum s\u0103-\u0219i creasc\u0103 copiii, dar&#8230;<\/p><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Am citit articole de genul <a href=\"https:\/\/hotnews.ro\/cu-ce-inlocuim-pentru-ca-asa-spun-eu-in-educatia-copiilor-de-azi-noile-reguli-ale-celor-7-ani-de-acasa-2085737\">\u0103stuia<\/a>, cu care sunt, <strong> \u00een mare, <\/strong> de acord \u0219i ce bine ar fi fost s\u0103 le fi spus \u0219i alor mei, sau mie mai t\u00e2n\u0103r unele lucruri \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu ce scrie acolo &#8211; dar e OK, c\u00e2t\u0103 vreme recunoa\u0219tem c\u0103 suntem pro\u0219ti \u0219i \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m. <br \/><br \/>Cu toate astea, am o opinie nepopular\u0103 cu privire la unele aspecte \u0219i n-o lua\u021bi ca sfat, c\u0103 nu-s nici pedagog nici psiholog certificat, ci strict ca o opinie alternativ\u0103 \u0219i ca un mod de g\u00e2ndire. <br \/><br \/>Cu privire la dou\u0103, eu cred c\u0103 am oferit alegeri care au dep\u0103\u0219it v\u00e2rsta \u0219i, deseori , le-am condus de m\u00e2n\u0103 spre rezultatul gre\u0219it, preg\u0103tit s\u0103 le scot de acolo, pentru c\u0103 pu\u021bine lucruri valoreaz\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t situa\u021bia \u00een care p\u0103rintele \u00ee\u021bi permite s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi invalidezi credin\u021bele proaste, bazate pe \u00eenc\u0103p\u0103\u021b\u00e2nare \u0219i entitlement pe barba lui, iar pe tine te cost\u0103, \u00een mare, doar timp, la o v\u00e2rsta la care ai timp c\u0103c\u0103l\u0103u. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1128\" height=\"588\" data-attachment-id=\"33806\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/?attachment_id=33806#main\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24.png\" data-orig-size=\"1128,588\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"image\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24.png\" src=\"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-33806\" srcset=\"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24.png 1128w, https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24-480x250.png 480w, https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24-200x104.png 200w, https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/image-24-768x400.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1128px) 100vw, 1128px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p> Dar punctele 2 \u0219i 3 sunt cele mai problematice abord\u0103ri ale lumii de acum, care, cred eu, supracompenseaz\u0103 tarele educa\u021biei familiale din genera\u021biile anterioare. Mi se par utile doar pentru copii cu nevoi speciale, s\u0103 zic a\u0219a, ca de la \u021bar\u0103. <br \/><br \/>\u00cen\u021beleg de unde vine treaba cu consecven\u021ba \u0219i de reguli constante, chiar \u00een\u021beleg \u0219i \u00eentr-o lume ideal\u0103 copilul care \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 disciplina ar avea succes.  \u00cen realitate, regula asta creaz\u0103 solda\u021bi, oameni care s\u0103 le serveasc\u0103 altora, pentru c\u0103 tr\u0103im \u00eentr-o lume  care se schimb\u0103 din ce \u00een ce mai rapid, tr\u0103im mai degrab\u0103 \u00eentr-o form\u0103 de haos pe care \u00eencerc\u0103m s-o organiz\u0103m, iar la nivelul cel mai \u00eenalt au \u0219anse s\u0103 ajung\u0103 cei care \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 haosul, cum se modeleaz\u0103 haosul \u0219i care-s principiile dup\u0103 care se schimb\u0103 regulile. Este una din cele mai importante lec\u021bii de via\u021b\u0103 pe care nu le-am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat suficient de t\u00e2n\u0103r, dar le-am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat. <br \/>Dac\u0103 e ceva de \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat din #\u0219coalavie\u021bi, cu un \u201di\u201d &#8211; \u0103sta-i unul din cele mai valoroase lucruri pe care le prinzi. Regulile de azi sunt valabile azi, doar p\u00e2n\u0103 la pr\u00e2nz.  Nu fac eu regulile, doar le \u00een\u021beleg. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A treia regul\u0103( aplicat\u0103 ca o mantr\u0103) este mult mai nociv\u0103 dec\u00e2t a doua, cred eu. <strong>L\u0103udarea efortului <\/strong>produce muncitori pro\u0219ti, care cred c\u0103 li se cuvine lumea, c\u0103 uite, au depus efort. <br \/>Efortul, la copii, trebuie apreciat, dar doar rezultatele trebuie <strong>l\u0103udate<\/strong>. Dac\u0103 copilul t\u0103u nu e cel mai bun \u0219i nu-l po\u021bi l\u0103uda pentru asta \u0219i nu vrei s\u0103-i rupi aripile, c\u0103 nu-i destul de puternic s\u0103 fie motivat cu critic\u0103, po\u021bi s\u0103-l lauzi pentru c\u0103 azi e mai pu\u021bin prost dec\u00e2t ieri. Pentru c\u0103 azi e mai aproape de a fi cel mai bun dec\u00e2t ieri. Acesta este <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">un rezultat. <\/span><\/strong><br \/>Faptul c\u0103 a muncit e doar energie consumat\u0103 \u0219i desigur c\u0103 trebuie apreciat mai mult dec\u00e2t nef\u0103cutul nimic, dar nu efortul trebuie l\u0103udat. <br \/>Dac\u0103 e s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebi pe mine, niciodat\u0103, dar po\u021bi \u00eentreba pe cine \u021bi se pare mai convenabil, c\u0103 a\u0219a merge lumea de acum, cu repere alternative de validare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br \/><br \/><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br \/><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nu dau sfaturi nim\u0103nui despre cum s\u0103-\u0219i creasc\u0103 copiii, dar&#8230; Am citit articole de genul \u0103stuia, cu care sunt, \u00een mare, de acord \u0219i ce&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14860,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[621],"tags":[6859,6858,6857],"class_list":["post-33805","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-articole","tag-invatarea-haosului","tag-lauda-efortului","tag-parenting"],"views":537,"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Free-education.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4Eq23-8Nf","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33805","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=33805"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33805\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":33809,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33805\/revisions\/33809"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/14860"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=33805"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=33805"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalinx.ro\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=33805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}